Have you ever wondered what it is like for someone who has survived abuse? The journey varies from person to person. Some individuals possess remarkable resilience, allowing them to bounce back quickly and move forward with their lives, particularly if the abuse occurred at a young age. However, for many others, it can feel like living in a never-ending nightmare.
The aftermath of abuse brings forth a flood of emotions: a constant sense of unworthiness, unlovability, displacement, and being misunderstood. Anxiety, depression, emotional instability, and a profound struggle to trust or love in a healthy way become all-consuming. These overwhelming emotions are often encapsulated under the term “Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder” (PTSD). But don’t let the simplicity of the term fool you—it is a challenging place to be, affecting every aspect of daily life and functioning.
If you could see life through the eyes of a survivor, you would be surprised to learn that they would willingly skydive every day if given the choice, rather than facing the mere thought of waking up, getting dressed, putting on a smile, mingling with others, and fulfilling expected responsibilities. The frequency of suicidal thoughts and the struggles they encounter in even the simplest tasks, such as sending an email, making a phone call, or responding to messages, would astonish you.
Survivors of abuse often find themselves grappling with two common personality disorders: dependent personality disorder and avoidant personality disorder. Dependent personality disorder involves a strong need for others’ approval and a fear of being alone, leading to reliance on others for decision-making and reassurance. Avoidant personality disorder, on the other hand, is characterized by extreme shyness, fear of rejection, and a tendency to avoid social interactions. These disorders compound the challenges survivors face, adding another layer of complexity to their healing journey.
It is crucial to seek professional help for loved ones who have experienced abuse, as they may perpetuate the cycle and become abusers themselves. Together, we can break this chain of destruction and foster a community where genuine happiness thrives among children and adults alike. At the Cece Yara Foundation, our services are provided free of charge. It all begins with a call to our 24-hour helpline (0800-800-8001).
Remember, by supporting survivors and helping them heal, we can create a brighter future for all.